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Why Do Children Misbehave?

At times children misbehave because of... anger, jealousy, fear, hurt, fatigue, hunter, illness or they were never clearly told that a certain behavior was wrong.

When parents "give in" to inconsiderate behavior, children tend to repeat the misbehavior and negative patterns can develop.

For example:

1. The child makes a demand. "I want some candy."
2. The parent refuses to give the child candy, pointing out that it's almost dinner time.
3. The child's demands continue: "But I still want candy!"
4. The parent becomes irritated.
5. The child keeps pestering.
6. The parent gets upset and overreacts.
7. The parent feels guilty, apologizes to the child, and gives the candy after all.

To break negative patterns like this, parents must learn to discipline effectively. Give children love and communicate it. Listen to your children. Understand your child's needs. Set realistic limits. Be consistant. Avoid empty threats. Be prompt. Think before you act. Scold in private. Reward you child for good behavior. Promote independence. Discuss emotions. Control your emotions. Promote responsibility. Set a good example. Above all, love and understanding are the keys!

(The above is an excerpt from AES Newsletter)